Girls like shoes. Girls like new shoes…and clothes and well you know everything!
I am a girl and I like them too, but I don’t like shopping. That’s a dilemma. You can’t get new if you don’t go out to get new. (Yes I know you can shop online but that doesn’t fit the analogy…just go with it).
Recently I have lost weight, no not from grief, that’s how I gained most of it, I ate my feelings. Over and over, there were a lot of feelings! I was frumpy, unfit and unhappy. I made a very conscious decision to change all that and am glad to say its’ working. So I have a pile of fat clothes and a dwindling amount of things that actually fit properly. But I hate shopping.
So I can stay in my fat clothes, or make the effort to get new ones. I face a few of these dilemmas nowadays. Buying new clothes is not a big dilemma. But what about my house, do I move house or stay, who am I alone, what church do I attend now, how do I parent alone?? All have been big questions for me, but they are all figured out the same way. By asking myself “what is the best thing in order to keep moving forward. “
The fact is I need a whole new wardrobe. My clothes had to change to a new size, a no-more-husband-size, its different now. But my shoes still fit, my feet didn’t get fat! So do I need new shoes too?
New clothes need new shoes to match. A new life needs a new attitude. The old things just don’t match anymore. It’s not the same. I cannot move forward holding onto the past. Is my husband only in my past, no! He will forever occupy a room in my heart; he will forever be my kids’ dad and if there is ever anyone new to love in my life they will need to accept that. But my life is different now. If I keep looking backwards I can’t see where I am going, I trip and I fall.
I need to look to happiness, to love, to life, to a future. I need new things that fit my new life. I need to step out of the house and back into the world.
I need new shoes to match the outfit.
“No one cuts up a fine silk scarf to patch old work clothes; you want fabrics that match. And you don’t put your wine in cracked bottles.” Mat 9:17 (The Message)